Loving Yourself is Ideal

Loving Yourself

Loving yourself is not always an easy thing to do simply because we think we are not "good enough" or we don't "deserve it". The truth is that everyone deserves a chance of happiness and love. I know that putting our heart out there after we have been hurt is not always an easy thing because all the insecurities tend to creep up and so we close up because we don’t want to take a chance that might be the start of something special. All of this to say if an opportunity presents itself don’t be afraid to take a chance because you never know what might come out of it. I'm so glad I love everything about myself.

It’s strange how we often view and compare ourselves with others, in a nutshell, if the comparison is healthy, then its okay, but if it not, then there might be an intent of cynicism to the comparison. Every living soul should be content and grateful.

Loving ourselves has to do with some certain level content as I mention above.
Fall in love with yourself. Think about what makes you. Just like a flower that needs watering to grow, learn to nurture yourself in every way. Love yourself for all the good that you see and accept your flaws and the fact that you are imperfect. This does not mean that you do not learn to change from your shortcomings; instead, you are being gentle and kind to yourself for all your flaws. Look in the mirror and fall in love with the reflection you see.

Eliminate Self Criticism. This is a very good question to ask my esteem readers, how often do you criticize yourself over the tiniest thing? Is there a little voice inside your head that often tells you that you are no good because you are stupid or make mistakes? If you find that you criticize yourself often, make an effort to stop the self criticism.

Be Kind and Positive. When we start to think kindly and positively about ourselves, the love we have for ourselves grows. Make it a habit to praise yourself every day, while in the front of the mirror. And not others, Because of such thoughts, you naturally undertake empowering actions that support your development.
Acknowledge Your Effort. It’s not always about winning or having success in everything that you do. Many times, it is the effort that counts! Acknowledge that you’ve done your best, even if you have failed to produce tangible results.
Worry less. Loving yourself requires you to let go of your worry. It is a horrible way to live a life filled with constant worrying. I can attest to that! Worry does not help in any way. It cannot, on its own, make things happen. Only wise actions can! So instead of worrying, spend time thinking about what you can do to help in the situation. If the situation is beyond your control, then ask the Universe for your desired outcome and let things work out on their own. Things will come to be, if they are meant to be.

Forgiving Yourself. If you have made mistakes in the past that had caused you to feel less worthy, then you need to forgive yourself. All of us make mistakes; so there really is no need to beat yourself up over them. Or if you’ve been carrying around a baggage of emotional hurt because of a childhood or adulthood trauma, learn to forgive yourself that it is not all your fault.

Be Truthful To Yourself. Loving yourself requires you to be truthful about your own feelings. If you are happy, acknowledge the joy. If you are sad, acknowledge the sorrow. When you are truthful about your feelings, you do not try to lie to yourself or seek to bury your negative emotions. Instead, acknowledging what you feel provides a good guide to what your thoughts are. And as we all know, thoughts can be changed, so that healing and self growth can take place.

True Affirmation of this is that I am Me. In the entire world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it — I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.

Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know — but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me.

However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.
I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.”

Mystique Abbey.

The Soulmate Experience

All the cliches about love at first sight arise from the real experience of recognizing someone we love from a past life. The intense and immediate sense of intimacy in such a connection is powerful, and throughout the years it has become obvious through my spiritual reading work that everyone wants to have a magical soul mate experience. The usual questions cover a range of course, from, "Will I ever find my soul mate?" to "Is he my soul mate?" to, "I thought she was my soul mate, what happened?"

Desire makes the world go around. It is desire that fuels all life and all creation. Desire leads to procreation, new life, ambition, all creativity, and every kind of union. It is desire for union or a divine sense of "Oneness" that inspires our fantasies for a soul mate experience. Our Western obsession with Romance has perhaps led to a distorted quest for that sense of Oneness in another person; our new holy grail is the "soul mate."

The problem with this is that what we truly seek is unlimited and unconditional, and Romantic love falls short of that ideal. We do long for the unconditional love that most of us have only known from our mothers.

The soul mate experience offers us the opportunity to begin with perhaps Romantic love and grow and stretch our very hearts and Spirits toward something higher. We are drawn together on the tails of magnetic romantic attraction, yet it is when our deepest hearts and souls extend themselves for another that a lasting and powerful spiritual bond begins to form.

Meeting someone and having a very positive and powerful attraction to them right away is a sign that this is someone we have loved well before. This is of course all a matter of degree. We might define a soul mate as someone that we feel a very positive immediate attraction to, AND someone we feel compelled to be with or know better. It's almost as if this connection takes on a life of its own, and we get swept up in its undeniable magnetic force.

Examine our life and our relationships. Think about our family, our children, our lover, our friends, our co-workers. How are we likely to feel upon meeting them in another life? Will we feel an immediate rapport? Will we feel wary or untrusting because of experiences we're creating now? We can create a soul mate experience today, and reap the positive benefits of this connection forever more.

Best of all, love and beloved in return, remember there is always a room for improvement in our dear lives.

Hope and what do we call hope ????

Hope

Hope is what makes us look forward to each and every day; without hope there is no tomorrow and probably no point of looking forward to anything.

In my thoughtless mood I have come to realise that hope as been essential in my living years up to this very moment. thus meaning no HOPE no point of living at all. with hope, one step is better and achievable.

Hope is necessary in every condition and Life doesn't require that we be the best, only that we try our best, there moments in life we could voice out and say, I have tried my best and there also moments in life we could voice out and say, I could have tried more harder, Life is all about giving a try and succeeding, those that are happy and successful today, gave happiness and success a trial with hope attached to it.

They went, saw, came and conquer all in the name of giving a try. Nothing works out fine without giving it a trial, in this case lets not judge those who try and fail, but judge those who fail to try

Will my esteem readers disagree with me if i say, Life is nothing more than a test, the hardest test that anyone can ever take. There is no studying or knowing the next question. Each question gets harder, but we must pass, we must push to the limit, if even sometimes on faith and hope alone, with this I could only trust in hope all through, after all Hope seems to be the very last chance and the very last thing that dies in Human.

Truly, williams shakespeare, said that only the miserable ones, lies under the pretence of hope, but is there anyone who never hopes to move a step further in life? does this means all humans are le misrable ??? offcourse not.................but to some extent.

In this case, Hope is some extraordinary spiritual grace that God gives us to control our fears, not to oust them.

Lets hope and fight against all odds.

Still takes time getting used to this........till tomorrow and God bless

its all about change........

Sometimes gettings started is easy, its always takes time getting used to.


It is said that, 'You can't change the world but you can always change yourself.' So, if you and I start to change then we have already begun changing the world.......atleast in a percentage of pace surely to improve as times moves on...........in due course of all my living years, have come to terms in realising that the only constant thing in this life is change, human being change at some point in time likewise everything else in this world......... buts lets come together and think of what couldnt have change even if the chance to arise????? any idea???? guess am still thinking.

Just in the space of 1460 days, for those who struggle with calculation, am talking about 4 years, since my life has tremedeously change from a form of public mediocre to a near accomplished life of a typical man, note...readers please do mind my quotes cos in writing this blog, is with all my sane and sanity......its a popular saying in Nigeria, ( Half man is incomplete) i could rightly called myself a man, in all unification of life. Lucky one to be precise. In this short period of time, i have come to realise that, effort made is a statement of intent.....i made an effort to set myself a target.....primarily to be successful, In quote what do i mean by been successful, thats is realising the target i set for myself........

I've learned that things change, people change, and it doesn't mean you forget the past or try to cover it up; it simply means that you move on and treasure the memories.........i do treasure the memories of yesterday cos it makes me who i am today, and offcourse its a past and i always learn from it.........when its comes to life, i must say that i have had a share of mine and am still having...................but how long? only God can tells........ so please always spend every second of every day together as a moment that could never be replaced........In this Holy Month i have come to realise that for every living soul, there is always a reason to be thankful and grateful.................Allihamdulilahi.

A precious few are blessed with life like ours. Even fewer have the strength, passion, and desire required to make that life a meaningful one.......My desire is fulfilled when I reach my destination, which is none other than a place in paradise..............how easy will that be ???????? i guess its a priceless question ever asked.

I should practically say am new in this, but as i said earlier, its takes getting used to, i will probably try my best to keep it updated everyday, with differents issues, about life, covering both entertaiment and reality, fun and et all...........

lets just keep the faith.........till tomorow..........God Bless