The Soulmate Experience

All the cliches about love at first sight arise from the real experience of recognizing someone we love from a past life. The intense and immediate sense of intimacy in such a connection is powerful, and throughout the years it has become obvious through my spiritual reading work that everyone wants to have a magical soul mate experience. The usual questions cover a range of course, from, "Will I ever find my soul mate?" to "Is he my soul mate?" to, "I thought she was my soul mate, what happened?"

Desire makes the world go around. It is desire that fuels all life and all creation. Desire leads to procreation, new life, ambition, all creativity, and every kind of union. It is desire for union or a divine sense of "Oneness" that inspires our fantasies for a soul mate experience. Our Western obsession with Romance has perhaps led to a distorted quest for that sense of Oneness in another person; our new holy grail is the "soul mate."

The problem with this is that what we truly seek is unlimited and unconditional, and Romantic love falls short of that ideal. We do long for the unconditional love that most of us have only known from our mothers.

The soul mate experience offers us the opportunity to begin with perhaps Romantic love and grow and stretch our very hearts and Spirits toward something higher. We are drawn together on the tails of magnetic romantic attraction, yet it is when our deepest hearts and souls extend themselves for another that a lasting and powerful spiritual bond begins to form.

Meeting someone and having a very positive and powerful attraction to them right away is a sign that this is someone we have loved well before. This is of course all a matter of degree. We might define a soul mate as someone that we feel a very positive immediate attraction to, AND someone we feel compelled to be with or know better. It's almost as if this connection takes on a life of its own, and we get swept up in its undeniable magnetic force.

Examine our life and our relationships. Think about our family, our children, our lover, our friends, our co-workers. How are we likely to feel upon meeting them in another life? Will we feel an immediate rapport? Will we feel wary or untrusting because of experiences we're creating now? We can create a soul mate experience today, and reap the positive benefits of this connection forever more.

Best of all, love and beloved in return, remember there is always a room for improvement in our dear lives.