Loving Yourself is Ideal

Loving Yourself

Loving yourself is not always an easy thing to do simply because we think we are not "good enough" or we don't "deserve it". The truth is that everyone deserves a chance of happiness and love. I know that putting our heart out there after we have been hurt is not always an easy thing because all the insecurities tend to creep up and so we close up because we don’t want to take a chance that might be the start of something special. All of this to say if an opportunity presents itself don’t be afraid to take a chance because you never know what might come out of it. I'm so glad I love everything about myself.

It’s strange how we often view and compare ourselves with others, in a nutshell, if the comparison is healthy, then its okay, but if it not, then there might be an intent of cynicism to the comparison. Every living soul should be content and grateful.

Loving ourselves has to do with some certain level content as I mention above.
Fall in love with yourself. Think about what makes you. Just like a flower that needs watering to grow, learn to nurture yourself in every way. Love yourself for all the good that you see and accept your flaws and the fact that you are imperfect. This does not mean that you do not learn to change from your shortcomings; instead, you are being gentle and kind to yourself for all your flaws. Look in the mirror and fall in love with the reflection you see.

Eliminate Self Criticism. This is a very good question to ask my esteem readers, how often do you criticize yourself over the tiniest thing? Is there a little voice inside your head that often tells you that you are no good because you are stupid or make mistakes? If you find that you criticize yourself often, make an effort to stop the self criticism.

Be Kind and Positive. When we start to think kindly and positively about ourselves, the love we have for ourselves grows. Make it a habit to praise yourself every day, while in the front of the mirror. And not others, Because of such thoughts, you naturally undertake empowering actions that support your development.
Acknowledge Your Effort. It’s not always about winning or having success in everything that you do. Many times, it is the effort that counts! Acknowledge that you’ve done your best, even if you have failed to produce tangible results.
Worry less. Loving yourself requires you to let go of your worry. It is a horrible way to live a life filled with constant worrying. I can attest to that! Worry does not help in any way. It cannot, on its own, make things happen. Only wise actions can! So instead of worrying, spend time thinking about what you can do to help in the situation. If the situation is beyond your control, then ask the Universe for your desired outcome and let things work out on their own. Things will come to be, if they are meant to be.

Forgiving Yourself. If you have made mistakes in the past that had caused you to feel less worthy, then you need to forgive yourself. All of us make mistakes; so there really is no need to beat yourself up over them. Or if you’ve been carrying around a baggage of emotional hurt because of a childhood or adulthood trauma, learn to forgive yourself that it is not all your fault.

Be Truthful To Yourself. Loving yourself requires you to be truthful about your own feelings. If you are happy, acknowledge the joy. If you are sad, acknowledge the sorrow. When you are truthful about your feelings, you do not try to lie to yourself or seek to bury your negative emotions. Instead, acknowledging what you feel provides a good guide to what your thoughts are. And as we all know, thoughts can be changed, so that healing and self growth can take place.

True Affirmation of this is that I am Me. In the entire world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it — I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.

Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know — but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me.

However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.
I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.”

Mystique Abbey.